Launching Pad or Snow Plow. Which are you?
Lea Naiz • May 20, 2014
Remember the term "Helicopter Parent", used to describe the hovering parent? Let me introduce the new and improved, "Snow Plow Parent". Hovering has been firmly replaced by snow plowing all of life's obstacles aside; including but not limited to, friends, school and sports, all to ensure that the child doesn't experience failure. In the world of the Snow Plow parent, there is no spinning, slipping, sliding or careening into the ditch. Often, the child's involvement is eliminated, entirely or in part, depriving the child of learning to clear their own path and ultimately setting them up to become more vulnerable.
Apart from creating an adult that is crippled with inability, research shows that the long term effects of snow plow parenting are very negative indeed. "Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life." Journal of Child and Family Studies, Helping or Hovering? The Effects of Helicopter Parenting on College Students' Well-Being,
In June, I hosted my annual Senior Essay Writing Workshop. This was the first in-person workshop since 2019. I bet you can guess why. I was elated to meet my students face-to-face after months, even years, of connecting through the screen. Imagine my surprise at their height, super-smiles, and warm laughter. Dang, it was wonderful. So, essentially, all my in-state seniors gather at my house for a three-hour intensive workshop on crafting a killer college essay. As I was preparing for the event, it occurred to me that I might be in competition with their PHONE. Classic directness (this is probably a character flaw) led me to inform my students and their parents, in advance, that this would be a no-phone gathering. My messaging went something like this, Important: Phones are placed in a basket at the door and retrieved at noon. No exceptions. Parents: If you need to reach your student during the workshop, text me directly at **********. Now, I am fully on board with the phone-free movement. I support it, advocate for it, and live it (I brilliantly quit all personal media last November). And I thought: my event, my rules. I was a little concerned about how this announcement would land. Turns out my concern was mainly about the parents. The kids? Not so much. In fact, research indicates that students crave phone-free learning environments. Suffice to say, the workshop was a smashing success. Not a single student pushed back against the policy. One poor soul forgot to retrieve her phone and left it sitting all alone in the basket. Not to worry, though. She didn’t get far before turning back to grab it. Here’s the truth: We don’t have to bow down to every technological whim or societal pressure. As adults, we know the phone is a problem, and it’s our job to foster healthy, happy individuals. So let's keep this momentum going. As Maya Angelou wisely said, “When you know better, do better.”
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