The Power of Paying Attention
The Power of Paying Attention

When my first child was born in 1991, the circumstances were not as I imagined. Born at 29 weeks, she spent the first six weeks of her life in the NICU. One of the blessings that came from this experience was the pediatrician that we were referred to - one who specialized in caring for premature babies. Dr. Gordon Blakeman saved my little family in many ways, and perhaps the most profound was that at every appointment, he asked a series of questions and listened to the answers.
Do you have dinner together, as a family, and not in front of the TV (today that would include and without devices?)
- Do you read to your child?
- And later, does your child read to you?
These questions may seem basic, and the answers may seem obvious. But are they? I urge you to get real with yourself. The world is exceedingly digital, virtual, and moving at lightning speed. So little time is spent in the company of others, without that pesky little device firmly in hand. But I will argue till I’m dead (and then I shall be the voice in my children’s head) that the act of paying attention, full, intentional, uninterrupted attention, to your child is the most powerful, meaningful, and everlasting gift you can give them.
And as this article below highlights, parenting teens is tough, and when you lay a solid foundation and regularly practice focused communication, it becomes bearable, if not joyful. The crowning jewel is when your adult children seek your company and time. The reciprocation is divine.

