Let 'em Fly
Shelly Humbach • May 26, 2021
Your child has enrolled, deposited - COMMITTED. Reality sets in. They are about to graduate and matriculate and this phenomenon often turns your teen into a jerk. I remember it well. The summer before my daughter (pick one) was off to college, I noticed an increase in my irritability with her behavior, tone of voice, excessive eye-roll and, basically her very existence. I know you may be thinking, um, this is typical teenager behavior, and it is. But the summer before college it climbs to a fever pitch.
As a parent, you may ask yourself, how can I feel this way when I know she’s about to launch? And therein lies the answer. She’s about to launch. If you can step back and acknowledge that this is unchartered water, you may be able to gain perspective. I have heard from many, many parents that this time is confusing and conflicting, and I agree. But what I know is that you and your child are trying to reconcile with the truth that in a few short months, they will no longer live under your roof. And that is scary stuff for both parties. So, these little (or big) irritations serve to help you become comfortable with the impending separation. It’s time. And if you have moments when you’re thinking, “don’t let the door hit you on your way out”, consider yourself in good company.
In June, I hosted my annual Senior Essay Writing Workshop. This was the first in-person workshop since 2019. I bet you can guess why. I was elated to meet my students face-to-face after months, even years, of connecting through the screen. Imagine my surprise at their height, super-smiles, and warm laughter. Dang, it was wonderful. So, essentially, all my in-state seniors gather at my house for a three-hour intensive workshop on crafting a killer college essay. As I was preparing for the event, it occurred to me that I might be in competition with their PHONE. Classic directness (this is probably a character flaw) led me to inform my students and their parents, in advance, that this would be a no-phone gathering. My messaging went something like this, Important: Phones are placed in a basket at the door and retrieved at noon. No exceptions. Parents: If you need to reach your student during the workshop, text me directly at **********. Now, I am fully on board with the phone-free movement. I support it, advocate for it, and live it (I brilliantly quit all personal media last November). And I thought: my event, my rules. I was a little concerned about how this announcement would land. Turns out my concern was mainly about the parents. The kids? Not so much. In fact, research indicates that students crave phone-free learning environments. Suffice to say, the workshop was a smashing success. Not a single student pushed back against the policy. One poor soul forgot to retrieve her phone and left it sitting all alone in the basket. Not to worry, though. She didn’t get far before turning back to grab it. Here’s the truth: We don’t have to bow down to every technological whim or societal pressure. As adults, we know the phone is a problem, and it’s our job to foster healthy, happy individuals. So let's keep this momentum going. As Maya Angelou wisely said, “When you know better, do better.”
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